BDSM Day one!
Jun. 27th, 2014 06:04 pm![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
spankingfemmeDay 1: Dom, sub, switch? What parts of BDSM interest you? Give us an interesting in-depth definition of what that means to you. Basically define your kinky self for us.
Most would think I'd say Dom here, and for the most part I would agree. But, I do have a switch side not being a submissive personally (the thought of myself submitting is actually a turn off and does nothing for me), but I do have fun subbing as characters I want to see spanked, having an active imagination I can kind of transport what I believe would be them into the scene. It's kind of mind blowing how when I get in that head-space I hardly feel anything at all and get off to the thought of whomever I'm fancying at the time getting what I'm receiving... so yeah, you tell me what that is! LOL!
As for my personal definition for each of these terms? To be a Dom for me was a way I took my strength back as a child. I started imagining mostly villains on the receiving end of some form of justice that I needed top see dispensed. As I grew into a teen, it was hormonal rage and destruction needing to claim and conquer that which I desired, and as I became an adult, it was about nurturing and guiding through a firm hand for the person who seemed otherwise unable to make wiser judgements. All of this encompasses my need to dominate on different varying degrees.
The submissive side is harder to tap in to, but I do tend to be attracted to villains that have a vulnerability that lends to the ability to be reasoned with and "fixed" if the right buttons are pushed. (of course their unwillingness is part of the challenge) The emotions that encompass bringing out that weakness and rebuilding the sub into a stronger person is an ingrained need as well as the stages of getting to acceptance of the Dom's guidance. (This of course is all fantasy based play and not what I'd ever want to do to a real person, but the want to see these emotional changes and when acting it out feeling them leaves me quite heady.)
Not sure if that makes any sense or not, but there you have it! :P
Most would think I'd say Dom here, and for the most part I would agree. But, I do have a switch side not being a submissive personally (the thought of myself submitting is actually a turn off and does nothing for me), but I do have fun subbing as characters I want to see spanked, having an active imagination I can kind of transport what I believe would be them into the scene. It's kind of mind blowing how when I get in that head-space I hardly feel anything at all and get off to the thought of whomever I'm fancying at the time getting what I'm receiving... so yeah, you tell me what that is! LOL!
As for my personal definition for each of these terms? To be a Dom for me was a way I took my strength back as a child. I started imagining mostly villains on the receiving end of some form of justice that I needed top see dispensed. As I grew into a teen, it was hormonal rage and destruction needing to claim and conquer that which I desired, and as I became an adult, it was about nurturing and guiding through a firm hand for the person who seemed otherwise unable to make wiser judgements. All of this encompasses my need to dominate on different varying degrees.
The submissive side is harder to tap in to, but I do tend to be attracted to villains that have a vulnerability that lends to the ability to be reasoned with and "fixed" if the right buttons are pushed. (of course their unwillingness is part of the challenge) The emotions that encompass bringing out that weakness and rebuilding the sub into a stronger person is an ingrained need as well as the stages of getting to acceptance of the Dom's guidance. (This of course is all fantasy based play and not what I'd ever want to do to a real person, but the want to see these emotional changes and when acting it out feeling them leaves me quite heady.)
Not sure if that makes any sense or not, but there you have it! :P
